tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post2804877826451142494..comments2023-12-16T16:17:43.886+00:00Comments on Fr Ray Blake's Blog: Marrying in Church is a right only for those who believe in Christian marriage, says PopeFr Ray Blakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05584140126211527252noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-43912064493364573932011-01-26T15:35:36.153+00:002011-01-26T15:35:36.153+00:00As I Gynaecologist working in a "Catholic&quo...As I Gynaecologist working in a "Catholic" country, I am sorry to have to report<br />that I have come across only two women in 22 years of practice who have chosen to limit their family size in a manner consistent with Church teaching.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08226087080641886934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-24125611294629601882011-01-24T22:50:39.664+00:002011-01-24T22:50:39.664+00:00Reply to A Priest:
Those 3 'questions' we...Reply to A Priest:<br /><br />Those 3 'questions' were not in the Old Rite of Marriage. Presumably they were not considered necessary then.zyxwnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-69058311315835088812011-01-24T11:42:49.641+00:002011-01-24T11:42:49.641+00:00Start proper catechesis with children now in schoo...Start proper catechesis with children now in school and the problem will be resolved.<br />In the meantime, perhaps one has to accept that the motive of the couple is to adhere to the Catholic Faith whatever they might have done in the past.<br />In a way one cannot pass judgement on them without passing judgement on the parents, teachers and priests whose responsibility it was<br />to bring them fully into the Faith.<br />But I do think the Pope was casting his eye further afield in this instance.georgemnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-86467631916677979182011-01-24T11:04:46.752+00:002011-01-24T11:04:46.752+00:00Saint Michael,
yes, I have been baptised (and mor...Saint Michael,<br /><br />yes, I have been baptised (and more). I managed to find my way home to the church at one point in my life. God has been good to me.Natasahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12979831428268753359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-46566559277640249352011-01-24T09:03:50.160+00:002011-01-24T09:03:50.160+00:00I really don’t see that the Pope is saying anythin...I really don’t see that the Pope is saying anything new. <br /><br />In the Catholic Rite of Marriage the Priest/Deacon/Bishop asks:<br /><br />1. “Are you ready freely & without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?”<br /><br />2. “Are you ready to love and honour each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?”<br /><br />3. “Are you ready to accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?”<br /><br />I think these three questions provide a short definition of what the Catholic Church understands by Marriage.<br /><br />And in the Information for Marriage Form, both the bride and the groom have to sign, with a priest as witness, a declaration stating “It is my intention to enter into marriage in accordance with the teaching of the Catholic Church”.<br /><br />The fact that either of them (or indeed both of them) may have engaged in sinful behaviour in the past and are now asking to enter into marriage in accordance with the teaching of the Catholic Church should be a cause of rejoicing for any Father who sees the return of a Prodigal Son or Daughter.A Priestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-10045652392418545462011-01-24T08:46:25.778+00:002011-01-24T08:46:25.778+00:00Justin: the "vocation to marriage" is wr...Justin: the "vocation to marriage" is written into human nature. <br /><br />Richard is right, isn't he? Though (not that it's any of my business, obviously) I do wonder the things you wonder in your post.berenikehttp://exlaodicea.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-51042439077177817522011-01-24T04:55:56.107+00:002011-01-24T04:55:56.107+00:00Any contact with Our Lord, however brief, surely i...Any contact with Our Lord, however brief, surely is an opportunity for God to offer His grace. Jesus must have met thousands in his short lifetime, not all committed immediately to Him, if at all (remember the crowd shouted "Crucify Him"). Accepting a couple for marriage in the church is like holding out a friendly hand in the dark, someone will take it. refusal seems to me to be refusing the opportunity. Jesus was most criticised when he deliberately hung around with the public sinners! Congratulations Fr Blake on your approach let's hope the practice spreads. McGod in Aus.mcgod in ausnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-61097990792796952392011-01-24T04:31:35.412+00:002011-01-24T04:31:35.412+00:00I hope it is rhetorical Fr.
I ask have they not al...I hope it is rhetorical Fr.<br />I ask have they not already alienated themselves from the Church. Are they rightly disposed to receive the sacrament have they confessed their sins? What about Father your obedience too the Holy Father? Mind I can see your local ordinary when he receives a complaint about your refusal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-68390119584164342202011-01-24T04:16:56.604+00:002011-01-24T04:16:56.604+00:00"Am I to refuse to marry them and alienate th..."Am I to refuse to marry them and alienate them from the Church?"<br /><br />I read the Pope's piece and what he is asking very reasonably is that you ensure as far a possible that the prospective spouses understand and accept the nature of Christian marriage before you permit them to marry in Church.<br /><br />If you are reasonably certain that the couple neither have nor wish to have a Christian view of marriage and you go ahead and "marry" them then are you not simulating a sacrament? If so, how could this ever be pastoral?Ma Tuckernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-56577024742281927082011-01-24T00:49:43.047+00:002011-01-24T00:49:43.047+00:00In English, Canon 1060 reads "Marriage posse...In English, Canon 1060 reads "Marriage possesses the favor of the law; therefore, in a case of doubt, the validity of a marriage must be upheld until the contrary is proven."<br /><br />If one reads the whole sentence, it seems clear that this should <b> not</b> be understood to say if there is no impediment that a couple has a right to marry. It means that for a couple that is married, the marriage is considered valid until proven otherwise.<br /><br />If you want a canon to say folks have a right to get married, Can. 1060 does not fit the bill.Deacon Seanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12907880626873236207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-41357977819070972132011-01-23T23:55:30.056+00:002011-01-23T23:55:30.056+00:00One of elements of marriage is “...the procreation...One of elements of marriage is “...the procreation and upbringing of children”. If the couple are using contraceptives, they cannot fulfil that part of the marriage covenant and their marriage would not be valid. It is incumbent on the priest to make sure the couple know what is necessary for the sacrament of marriage and the consequences of their actions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-57534678004785230822011-01-23T22:19:44.553+00:002011-01-23T22:19:44.553+00:00If a couple, who are living together and contracep...If a couple, who are living together and contracepting, choose a nuptual Mass<br />would you give them Holy Communion as a pastoral gesture?Sharonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-88124584210478015012011-01-23T21:16:10.551+00:002011-01-23T21:16:10.551+00:00If I were a Priest then for the first marriage pre...If I were a Priest then for the first marriage prep I'd take the potnetial groom and show him the first 10-20 miniutes of the NEW star trek film. <br /><br />The first 11 miniutes to show the Correct atittude of Marriage where Lt Commander Geroge Kirk Sacrifices his own life to protect those of his Wife and (literally) newborn child.<br /><br />The next 10 minuitess to show the difference between someone raised in a loving environment and one raised in an abusive home. <br /><br />I'd then tell him that if by the end of the prep that if he isn'tt prepared to immiate Chirst and Geroge Kirk by giving up his life for his spouse then I would refuse to mary him and his wife.Just another mad Catholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10503510474554718305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-6987655515962639372011-01-23T21:09:20.385+00:002011-01-23T21:09:20.385+00:00arundinem quassatam non confringet,
et linum fumig...arundinem quassatam non confringet,<br />et linum fumigans non extinguetManuelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-25497397137837865172011-01-23T20:29:38.656+00:002011-01-23T20:29:38.656+00:00Richard,
And it is natural right of a couple who a...Richard,<br />And it is natural right of a couple who are free to marry.Fr Ray Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05584140126211527252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-82217753289113483132011-01-23T20:15:45.227+00:002011-01-23T20:15:45.227+00:00Fr Blake, I always remember our Canon Law lecturer...Fr Blake, I always remember our Canon Law lecturer Monsignor Cousins saying "Marriage enjoys the favour of the law". That is, if there is no impediment then the couple are free to marry in the Church.Richard Reevesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-67464212994275320642011-01-23T19:58:16.105+00:002011-01-23T19:58:16.105+00:00Yes, but I expect few bishops would back priests i...Yes, but I expect few bishops would back priests if they refused to marry those living together or contracepting.Fr Marcusnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-45836576961192892642011-01-23T19:43:56.545+00:002011-01-23T19:43:56.545+00:00For my part, I would rather be judged wanting on t...For my part, I would rather be judged wanting on this earth and have the opportunity to amend and atone for my sins, than only realize my deficiencies when I am judged by the Almighty.<br />It might also be an idea for an orthodox centralised marriage preparation service to exist ("Marriage Care" is a shocking disgrace which does scandal to the faith). One must attempt every avenue. <br />I would be tempted to agree that to deny the sacrament to those who do not take it seriously, or who are consciously in breach of the Church's teaching, or blatantly disregard it, might be more charitable. All of us need a wake-up call every now and then. <br />If the Sunday obligation is not observed, if contraception is a part of their "lifestyle choice", there is a heck of a lot of work to be done. There needs to be a renewed sense of self-sacrifice, which is so lacking in this vale of tears. The sacrament of marriage is not a "right", nor is the gift of children.universal doctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16799857998804342261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-55954816266248829722011-01-23T19:04:29.037+00:002011-01-23T19:04:29.037+00:00Natasa,
Hopefully you have been baptized.
*Natasa,<br /><br />Hopefully you have been baptized.<br /><br />*Pablo the Mexicanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09384415590309803327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-55090090842898772152011-01-23T17:55:50.817+00:002011-01-23T17:55:50.817+00:00I find this very similar to the question whether b...I find this very similar to the question whether babies whose parents are not practicing their faith should be baptised. <br />Anyone can fall away from the faith in some point in life (and come back) but to baptise a child/marry a couple when there is evidence that it is just something done without conviction,a nice tradition, an expectation from family or whatever reason, then we end up having a church full of people who have nothing to do with it in reality. <br /> <br />I was not baptised as a child because my parents were in a civil marriage. My mum wanted it but the priest said no. I'm glad the priest made that decision because I was not raised in faith, far from it. <br /> <br />I know a number of people who think that Christianity is a joke but nevertheless got married in church (and got the children baptised) becaue it's a tradition and a church provides a nice setting, a bit more meaningful than a registry office. I've heard that many times.<br /><br />Being a bit more demanding wouldn't hurt. The church needs to grow a spine once again and learn to say no when there is reason to do so.Natasahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12979831428268753359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-62534119664465893322011-01-23T16:34:36.739+00:002011-01-23T16:34:36.739+00:00Priests have consciences too and also human rights...Priests have consciences too and also human rights, which entitle them not to act against their own consciences. If a priest should doubt a couple's belief in the sanctity of marriage, as taught by the Church, he should be free to discourage them from taking such a step.<br /><br />There are so many options as to where a marriage can be celebrated nowadays, from Registry Offices to hotels;even beaches on Bali. I do not really understand why a couple who are not committed to Catholic teachings on marriage would insist on a wedding in a Catholic Church and they should not expect a priest to compromise his beliefs.misericordianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-61518314799619062232011-01-23T16:14:54.703+00:002011-01-23T16:14:54.703+00:00As an addendum - marriage is a calling, like the p...As an addendum - marriage is a calling, like the priesthood, etc.<br /><br />Not everyone has a true and genuine call to the priesthood and religious life, and similarly not everyone has a genuine vocation to marriage. Society expects that people get married and is invariably seen as a rite of passage of some sort.<br /><br />The Church should do more to correct this mis-representation of the marital vocation. All are called to chastity. Some are called to marriage. <br /><br />Many people speak of finding the 'right' wife or husband, as if marriage is an expectation. Maybe the even more fundamental question is whether so many people are meant to be married in the first place. <br /><br />Local parishes should do more to help individuals discern their calling to marriage, much in the same way that they have priesthood/religious life discernment days, so too the married life.<br /><br />Being unmarried does not excuse the Christian of the call to chastity, which is a universal call.justinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-52007891075004872122011-01-23T16:09:21.737+00:002011-01-23T16:09:21.737+00:00The thing is Father, if they really are as you say...The thing is Father, if they really are as you say they are, then they're not exactly 'practicing' the faith anyway are they? So how exactly will they be alienated, when they, through their own actions already are.justinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-42692756154927748532011-01-23T16:09:11.099+00:002011-01-23T16:09:11.099+00:00To the question "have these couples not alrea...To the question "have these couples not already alienated themselves from the Church" I would add these: (1) do they not compound their guilt by adding the sacrament of Matrimony into the mix? and (2) would marrying them in the Church serve to confirm them in their sinful ways by making it appear that the Church sanctions their wrong course of conduct?Anita Moorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11305092097247290243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31069882.post-16338762782034567822011-01-23T15:55:35.017+00:002011-01-23T15:55:35.017+00:00PIUSXXX said...
"few really understand much ...PIUSXXX said... <br />"few really understand much about self giving love" How can you possibly know this? You really are worse than the Pharisees, Father. p.s. You wouldn’t last a week in our parish..."<br /><br />A whole lot more Respect for the Padre, Pius.<br /><br />You wouldn’t last a week in our parish..."<br /><br />Charity apparently is on hiatus in your Parish.<br /><br />Are you a Third Order of the SSPX?<br /><br />That would explain your Elitists’ attitude.<br /><br />Saint Pius X would knock you on your behind for that remark.<br /><br />He was a tough guy, and did not tolerate fools.<br /><br />I am a Cristero, and don’t tolerate them either.<br /><br />*Pablo the Mexicanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09384415590309803327noreply@blogger.com